Have your children ever pushed buttons in public and you reacted poorly?

Not really, respect is big in our house and tantrums are rare, we have taught them that that is simply not going to get them a thing, so when they do pull something in public, its rare enough that Im able to keep my cool about it. I have raised my voice, but I dont think thats reacting poorly, its simply showing them with my body language that I am upset with their actions, if you keep a calm soft voice they will think its no big deal if they dont stop. I have never screamed in their faces and have never cursed at them, nor them at me. Parents who do that are just asking for disrespectful kids. Its pretty clear that the child in your situation isnt getting the right kind of discipline, hes getting screamed and cursed at rather then actually being punished and disciplined. If they were my child, the moment they "demanded" $20, I would inform them that they either change their tone or we will be leaving the banquet that moment and they will spend the night in their room. If they cursed, we would leave that moment and they would get a dab of soap plus a weeks grounding when we got home, cursing at a parent is one of the most disrespectful things you can do in my opinion. I honestly dont want to sound like a bragging parent, but I cant recall a time that my older sons have misbehaved really in public since they were toddlers, every once in a while there will be a whining incident but that never escalates to anything further. When my toddlers misbehave, all toddlers throw a tantrum in public at some point, I do what you do, I give them one warning in a slightly raised voice to behave, and if they dont, we go sit outside and I let them cry and scream all they want until they see that its not getting them anything, and they calm down, then we have a quick talk about it and go back inside. My husband has made joking threats, but the kids know just as much as he does that its a joke to tell them that hes serious in a light way, its all controlled and nothing gets out of hand. For example, my four year old daughter was tapping her feet on the back of his seat in the car, he said in a light way "Natalie you kick my seat one more time and I'll sell you to the circus", she giggled and stopped. If she had continued, she would have gotten one more less friendly warning, then we probably would have pulled the car over and given her a timeout until she was ready to behave.